“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind”Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Anger is not a negative emotion. It’s the way you cope that makes it negative. Blurting things out or acting aggressively because someone “made you angry” can end up destroying your relationship with the person; whilst affecting your psychological well-being.
Reacting to the smallest of provocations is an indication that you have difficulty managing your anger. Not only do you end up doing something you may regret later, but you also affect your own health as your blood pressure rockets.
It’s important to take charge of your emotions before it takes a toll on your personal and professional lives.
Control anger before it controls you
It’s completely normal to experience anger. Its what you do when you are angry that carries consequences for your mental health. You can either control your anger or allow it to take control of you.
Here are 5 tips on how to deal with anger before it completely consumes you.
Watch A Funny Video
The reason I put this at the top of my list is that this has worked most effectively for me so far. Whenever I feel like my head is going to explode from all the anger I’m feeling, I immediately grab my phone and watch a funny video. It could be anything- a standup comedy, a funny commercial, or a clip from a movie.
By the time I’m done watching the video, I realize that I’ve automatically calmed down and my heavy breathing has returned to normal. I am then able to rationally think about what happened and deal with it in a more mature way.
Resist The Urge To Say Anything At All
The first instinct, when you’re angry, is to speak your mind. Don’t. In the heat of the moment, you might end up saying hurtful things you don’t mean.
Resist the words that are desperately trying to make an appearance through your vocal cords. Collect your thoughts and only then speak.
You’ll notice that as you remain silent, your anger starts to subside, and you’re able to think more logically, avoiding escalating the matter that led to you being angry in the first place.
Go For A Walk
Going or a walk serves two purposes. It prevents you from doing something stupid in your burst of anger by taking you away from the distressing situation. It also calms you down and helps you think logically, making you feel better, and stabilizing your mood.
At the same time, it helps you let off steam in a more productive way. Exercise is known to be a great stress buster and walking is one of the best forms of exercise. By going for a walk or a run, you end up releasing the stress that builds up inside of you, thus helping you control the anger.
Count From 1 to 100
This may seem like a silly tip for anger control, but it is highly effective. Whenever you see yourself getting angry, start counting from 1 to 100.
In the time interval that you count, your attention will be shifted from the source of the anger to the numbers in your head. And by the time you’re done, your anger would have subsided enough to prevent you from engaging in regretful behaviour.
Put Yourself In The Other Person’s Shoes
Our Anger often stems from other peoples’ actions. What we fail to understand is that the other person may or may not have done something with a malign intention. Their words or actions may not even have been directed towards us. It may have been absolutely generic.
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and think about why they did what they did, and whether they meant any harm. More often than not, you’ll realize that you were simply overreacting and it wasn’t a big deal at all.
Take A Deep Breath
Stress starts to build up as you get angry and your breathing becomes shallow. Your heart rate goes up, leaving you angrier and prone to engaging in damaging behaviour.
Take a deep breath. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Do this until you start to calm down and your heart rate returns to normal.
You’ll notice that you’re not as angry after the breathing exercise as you were before, and you can calmly deal with whatever situation it was that had got you fuming with rage.
In Conclusion- Effective Ways To Control Anger
There’s hardly anyone who doesn’t get angry. But it’s the way you deal with it is what determines whether or not you’re a short-tempered person. Apart from the harm you cause to your relationships, you also affect your mental and physical health by letting your anger manifest itself into destructive forms.
Life is short. Don’t waste it being angry. It’s not worth it. Even if you don’t express your anger, it eats you up from inside and the other person hasn’t a clue that you’re angry at them.
Take it easy. And learn to let go!